When we think of sexual thrusting, we tend to think of thrusting in and out…
You put your penis*,
You take out your penis,
Inside, outside,
Inside, outside,
You shake everything!
*gold dildo
But sexual drive is much more nuanced, and we’re not here to cheat on our partners!
Changing your technique can have a big impact on the experience for both you and your partner by adding more intense stimulation wherever you want!
The orgasm gap is no secret, as vulva owners in heterosexual relationships orgasm much less frequently than their partners with penises. One of the reasons is the lack of stimulation of the clitoris with regular in and out thrusts.
The techniques I have for you today can help bridge the orgasm gap and give you both more good stuff!
Not to mention, a little variety in the bedroom can definitely keep things interesting. So stretch out, get agile, and get ready to move those hips!
7 sexual thrusting techniques for more pleasurable penetration
Perfect accessories to boost sexual drive.
7 sexual thrusting techniques for more pleasurable penetration
Now it’s time to step away from our beloved inside-out thrusts and take a look at some sexual thrusting techniques that can add a lot more pleasure, especially for vulva owners!
But before we dig in, and I can’t emphasize this enough, learning these sex drive techniques is pointless if you don’t communicate to your partner what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. This is definitely a different hit for different people situations.
Not to mention, what feels good one day, may not be good the next due to many different factors. For example, the position of the cervix changes throughout the menstrual cycle, which can make deep penetration painful at certain times.
1. Glorious grinding
As you thrust in and out, you may occasionally bump against your partner’s clitoris; However, most vulva owners need longer contact and pressure against their clitoris to achieve orgasm.
Instead, try inserting yourself fully and using your pubic mound to rub against her clitoris. This can also provide more stimulation to all of the labia, further increasing your pleasure!
Keeping your penis in and grinding can also help you last longer since the friction against your penis is less intense! This technique works in face-to-face positions, especially when there is close contact!
2. The coital alignment technique, also known as grinding corn
This slight change to the classic missionary position can make a big difference! Developed and studied by Edward Eichel In the 1980s, this thrusting technique puts clitoral pleasure front and center!
The penetrative partner moves their hips higher on their partner’s body so that their penis or dildo points toward their partner’s vagina. Instead of thrusting, they can rock back and forth, with the base of the penis rubbing against their partner’s clitoris.
3. Rock’n’roll
I now have a thrusting technique for vulva owners, specifically for when you’re on top in riding positions like Cowgirl and its variants.
Instead of bouncing up and down or trying to create deep thrusting movements, try rocking and rotating your hips. Once your partner’s penis or dildo is inside, you can move your hips back and forth.
Swinging your hips in this way and twisting your body can also increase arousal, get blood flowing to the pelvic region, and relax the muscles in the area. Just try to keep it loose and don’t tense your buttocks!
Adjusting the position of your upper body by leaning forward or backward will alter where you feel the most stimulation from penetration. This is also a good position for you or your partner to rub your clitoris at the same time!
4. going around
This is another version of the grinding technique, but instead of rocking back and forth, you can move your hips in circles or semicircles, increasing stimulation of the vaginal walls.
This can be done by the partner who penetrates or the one who receives if he is on top.
5. Shallow Penetration, also known as Tip Only
In general, the tip of the penis is the most sensitive and the first few centimeters of the vagina are the most sensitive. Take advantage of all that sensitivity with superficial penetration!
This can be a great way to warm up and increase arousal or really tease your partner.
Use the tip of your penis to tease your partner’s vulva, rubbing from the vaginal opening to the clitoris. You can then stimulate around the vaginal opening before letting the tip slide inside.
Then you can explore different movements, such as moving it slowly in and out, or moving it in and out to stimulate the front and back walls of the vagina.
According My God 40% of women report that deeper penetration feels more pleasurable after enjoying shallow penetration!
6. Deep diving
While shallow thrusts can be great because they target the most sensitive areas of the vagina, deep thrusts can also be “deeply” pleasurable as they can stimulate the A-spot.
The anterior cul-de-sac erogenous zone, or A-spot, is located toward the back of the vaginal canal, a few inches deeper than the G-spot. For some, stimulating this area can be intensely pleasurable, leading to increased wetness/lubrication, and even leading to some powerful orgasms.
To stimulate this area, you should insert your penis or dildo deep inside your partner. Then, you can explore slower, gentler movements and thrusts to find what works. Pushing harder risks hitting the cervix, which can be painful.
This deep exploration is best enjoyed later in the session, when the receiving partner is fully aroused and warmed up.
According My God15% of women who have enjoyed deep penetration have had a distinctive climax that feels different from other types of orgasm.
7. Fast versus slow sexual thrust
In addition to thinking about how deep you push, you can also modify the speed with which you push. Sure, sometimes it can feel great to go hard and fast, but going slow can intensify the sensations.
Moving the penis or dildo slowly allows you to feel more pleasurable friction, while you can lose that definition with quick thrusts.
Slow thrusts can also be a great way to tease your partner and increase their arousal and make those harder, faster thrusts feel much more intense and pleasurable!
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Perfect accessories to boost your sexual drive.
Well, now you have some new sexual thrusting techniques to try. Let’s take a look at the best sex toys and aids to make it even better!
sex pillows
It’s no secret that placing a pillow under the vulva owner’s hips during missionary sex can increase her pleasure.
BUT I didn’t realize how much better it gets when you use a sex pillow until I tried the Liberator Jaz! Wow!
The combination of the angle and the high-density foam, which holds its shape much better than a conventional pillow, is truly magical!
The angle allows for greater contact along the front wall of the vagina and deeper penetration at the same time!
Combine a sex pillow with some slow thrusts for intensely pleasurable, sensual penetrative sex.
Doggy style leash
You can really teach an old dog new tricks with the I like the doggy style leash by Sportsheets!
This simple but effective strap-on allows for deeper penetration, more pleasurable angles and helps you and your partner maintain your thrusts over time!
The strap features soft padding for comfort and has adjustable straps. It also comes in a plus size version!
A sexual swing
sex swings It opens up many thrusting skills as they allow you to move your partner back and forth with ease! They also give you new penetration angles to explore.
Tea Screamer Double Hook Sex Swing It’s one of the best for exploring multiple positions, as you can adjust or even remove the straps to follow your position.
Plus, if you love being on top and exploring deep, stretchy penetration, we highly recommend the squat accessory — Believe me, your thighs will thank you!
Some Final Tips on Sex Drive
Now that we’ve covered techniques and accessories, I’ll leave you with some final tips to perfect your sexual penetration techniques!
- This is the most important of all! Communicate with your partner! The only way to know if they want it deep or shallow, fast or slow, or if they need a slightly different angle at that moment is to ask them!
- Try to keep your hips loose and move with your body for a more sensual and fluid movement. This also helps release tension in the pelvic area, which can increase pleasure!
- Some people really enjoy it when you change the pace or depth from time to time, but many people need a constant speed or tempo to generate arousal and reach orgasm. It may be good to tease with slower or shallower thrusts at first with a few deeper or faster thrusts here and there, but again, the only way to know what your partner likes is to ask!
- Don’t be afraid to try new pushing techniques together to find out which ones really hit your sweet spots. It’s totally okay that some don’t work for you, but try to enjoy exploring together!