Tell me more about… Anal kiss (anilingus)
So… what is black kissing?
Rimming (also known as anilingus) is oral stimulation around the anus. Some people like it, some don’t, and both are totally normal. It’s just an option on the menu.
Consent first (keep it under pressure)
This works best when you ask before you are already in the moment.
Easy ways to register:
- “Do you like rimming or is that not your thing?”
- “Any hard no?”
- “Do you want to use a barrier (dental damage)?”
- “How should I register: ‘green/yellow/red’?”
And remember: consent is in progress. If someone hesitates, becomes quiet, stiffens, or seems unsure, pause and consult.
Hygiene: simple and intense rhythms
You don’t need a full spa day. Most people are comfortable with:
- A quick shower/rinse beforehand (a mild soap externally is fine).
- For that extra level of cleanliness, a shower It can be used to clean the inside of the anus.
- Wash your hands and trim nails if hands may be involved.
- A rain check if someone has mouth sores/cuts or anal irritation/bleeding.
An additional tip that’s easy to overlook: Some sexual health guidelines recommend avoiding brushing or flossing right before or after oral sex, as it can irritate the gums and create small openings for infection.
The simple improvement towards safer sex: barriers
If you want the simplest and “safest” setting:
- dental barriers They are made for oral sex and can be worn over the anus during oral-anal sex.
Toy Talk: Sex Toys That Can Pair Well with Rimming (And How to Do It Safely)
1) External vibrators (suitable for beginners)
HAS small vibrator used externally around the area can be an easy addition because it requires no inside play or complicated technique.
What to look for:
- Non-porous, easy-to-clean materials (commonly silicone, glass, stainless steel)
- Something with simple controls (especially if you’re new)
2) “black kiss”/ tongue style toys
Some toys are designed to imitate a licking sensation. They are popular with people who like the idea of rimming but want:
- a hands-free option, gold
- something more predictable and less “in the moment”
Safety rule worth making clear on your blog:
- If a toy touches the anus, don’t put it near anyone’s mouth afterwards. Treat “mouth stuff” and “butt stuff” as totally separate lanes.
3) Anal plugs (only if you really want internal play)
Some people like to add a plug while keeping the focus on the external/oral sensation.
Two non-negotiables:
- Use toys made for anal use.
- Choose one with a flared base/wide base so it can’t slide
4) Prostate massagers (for people with prostate)
They have a different shape than normal toys and are intended for internal stimulation of the prostate. The same rules apply: body safe, easy to clean and designed for anal use with a safe base/handle.
5) Remote or app-controlled toys (good for communication)
These can be good for couples because they naturally encourage:
- checking the intensity
- Slow changes instead of sudden surprises.
Wash toys between uses (and between body areas)
If a toy passes from one person to another, or from one area of the body to another, treat it as a “reset moment”:
- wash it
- or exchange condoms (ideally both)
It is always a good idea to use a antibacterial cleaner when cleaning your toys. We have a wide range of cleaners to suit any toy.
Don’t do butt → vagina without washing/changing condom
Even if no one has an STI, switching from anal to vaginal use without cleansing can increase the risk of irritation or infection.
Use plenty of lube for anal toys.
If there are any internal anal toys involved, lube helps reduce friction and discomfort (and makes you less likely to override your body’s “no” signals).
If something hurts you, stop
Pain is not a “get over it” situation. Stop, check in and shift gears.
Quick FAQ
Is rimming “safe”?
Nothing is zero risk, but you can do it safer with barriers, smart hygiene and not doing it when someone has sores or gastrointestinal illnesses.
Do I need toys for this?
No. Toys are optional. If you use them, prioritize cleanliness, sharing condoms, and anus-safe designs (hello, flared bottom).
How do I mention toys without making it weird?
Try: “Do you want to keep it simple or would you like to add a vibe or plug?” So respect the answer either way.
At the end of the day, have fun and play safe!