“I want something that my partner and I can use together.”
This is probably one of the most common requests we hear in stores. And honestly, it makes a lot of sense. The truth is that with a little creativity, anything we sell can be used with a partner (or more) and be super effective. Typically, what people mean by this is a toy that helps someone with a clitoris reach orgasm during penetrative sex with someone with a penis. So let’s start there. (Of course, everyone is different; what works for one couple may not work for another, so experiment to see what you both like.)
bullets
Personally I’m a big fan of simple bullets for this job. There are a million types to suit all size, shape and budget preferences. They are also (in my opinion) unintimidating, usually no larger than a lipstick, so there should be very few complaints from someone aware of their own natural equipment. They are also super simple, usually only having 1 button and a variety of settings. It’s a real mood killer to play with multiple buttons and settings when trying to be intimate.
Functionally, they are super easy to use during sexual relations since they are low profile. They’re not too bulky, so you can get pretty close. Either of you can hold it on or around the clitoris for another layer of stimulation.
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Hands-free options
Do you like the idea of stimulating clitoral vibration during sex but don’t really want to hold anything with your hands? I’ve got you: portable options for him and her.
for her
C-shaped vibrators, like the WeVibe Chorus, are designed to sit half in the vaginal canal against the G-spot and the other half pressed against the vulva/clitoris. The internal part is also flat on one side, with the idea that a couple with a penis can also fit there. WeVibe has a few different versions of the same idea to follow your preferences in terms of shape.
They can also be controlled via app or remote, which is a very underrated feature that couples can take advantage of, but more on that later.
For him
Cock rings have been around for millennia (Don’t believe me then read this) and have mainly improved over the centuries. One of those improvements is the invention of vibrating rings designed to please both the user and their partner. Basically, you can give your rabbit schlong a vibrating attachment, while still getting the benefits of a ring: harder erections and delayed (more explosive) orgasms. Look at these options
Remote control options
As I mentioned, I think a lot of couples overlook remote control toys to use together, I think this is because people often have a limited idea of how sex toys can be used during sex (men’s sex is not just the penis goes into the hole). Remote control toys open up whole new avenues to explore. For example:
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Have one partner sit on the bed with a toy and the other person on the side control the toy and watch the show. Hot: basically your own private cam show.
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Use a handheld device and give your partner the opportunity to turn it on whenever they want (the beautiful thing about this is that anyone can do it; there are handheld toys for everyone so you can compete with each other)
There are many remote control options today, but my preferred brand for remote control options will always be Lovense. Everything in their range is designed to be used with the same application and usually with pairs in mind. I would say our best selling products are:
stuff to the max
Everyone can totally participate in things, and for some reason some people (*cough, straight cis men*) often forget that. In fact, I dare say you should be the most open to giving it a try and exploring the wonders of the male G-spot and prostate stimulation, but I digress.
The most important thing to remember when exploring things fully as a couple (aside from enthusiastic consent and making sure BOTH partners are excited to try it, but that goes without saying… right?) is to go slowly and start little by little. And lubricant. Lots of lubricant, ideally a specific rear door– They last longer and are much thicker so they don’t slip and slide where you don’t put them.
- threesome:This is a good starting point, and having the set means you can increase the size as you feel more comfortable. Silicone is also a comfortable option as it glides on very easily (again with plenty of lube).
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Finding the perfect strap will probably require some trial and error to find the right one.
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I would start with something like this. ROMP fixing kit although if you are not sure
In conclusion
My biggest advice is to think outside the box and remember that sex can and should be more than just penetration. Think about how to best set the mood, create tension with your partner, and find ways to use toys that are fun and satisfying for all parties.
Still not sure? Come chat to our friendly staff in store and we’ll find something perfect for you and your partner.