Today we put the B in BDSM! That’s right, we dive into the world of bondage with a guide on how to use different sexual restrictions For an exciting couples game!
We will cover how to use:
How to use handcuffs
For many people, handcuffs They are the first test of bondage and are a staple of any BDSM toolkit. They come in many different materials, from silicone grips for beginners up to advanced level, leather with lock.
Bondage handcuffs allow you to lock your partner’s hands, restricting their movement and giving you full control of their pleasure. Here are some easy holding positions and ideas to get you started.
Arms behind the back
One of the easiest ways to use handcuffs is to secure your partner’s hands. behind his back whether in a session, standinggold kneeling position. This gives you great access to the front of your body and limits your movement.
The kneeling position is incredible for giving your partner some pleasure. oral pleasure or move to doggy style with his arms tied.
Arms above head
If you have a restraint point, you can trim the handcuffs. above your partner’s head while they are standing.
This gives you full access to tease the entire front of his body, making it a great position to use all types of bdsm toys! If you prefer anal play, just have them face the other way!
If you don’t have anywhere to attach them, over-the-door holders are a cheap and convenient alternative.
Tied to the chair (or any furniture)
Hand and wrist cuffs can also be used to tie your partner to some furniture, completely limiting their movement!
If you love to give a sexy stripteaseFirst tie your partner to the chair to enforce a strict “you can look but don’t touch” policy.
If the seated partner has a penis or strap-on dildoYou can also get on his lap to jump. meat sex!
Dolls around the neck
If you have a bondage collar With D-rings, you chain your partner’s wrist to their necklace, limiting their movement.
If you are sitting, standing or lying on your backThis is an incredible position for all types of power play, as it gives the Dom complete control of his partner’s pleasure.
If you love nipple stimulation, you can add some nipple clamps For a little pleasure!
Ankle-length wrists
This is a more intense handcuffs position and needs a game of ankle restrictions also.
- Put on both restraints.
- Kneel down and place your hands between your knees.
- Have your partner hold each wrist to each ankle.
Once in position, your butt will be in the air, giving your partner full access to stimulate you from behind: rimming, anal beadsvibrating anal toys, penetrative play – whatever you fancy!
The best handcuffs from beginners to advanced.
How to do sexual restraints with rope bondage
bondage rope It may seem a little intimidating at first, but you don’t have to be a knot expert to use it!
The rope is very versatile as you can use it to create any type of restraint you desire, from simply using it to tie up your partner to more complex shibari bondage.
Make handcuffs with rope bondage.
A double column bondage is a quick and easy way to restrain your partner’s wrists or ankles with bondage rope. It doesn’t require fancy knots, making it ideal for bondage beginners!
look at this cool video For instructions on how to try it yourself!
Most advanced bondage rope restraints
As you become more confident using bondage rope for sexual restraint, you can explore more complex shapes and knots to create body harnesses or even try suspension bondage.
- breast bondage — Make your breasts the star of the show and let your partner wash them carefully with a rope bondage breast harness!
- shibari rope It can be used to make all kinds of intricate and beautiful restrictions that limit movement and create an incredible look!
How to use restraint systems under the bed
retentions under the bed They are amazing for full body bondage. Tea spread eagle position gives you full access to tease your partner’s entire body while tied to the bed.
How to install restraints under the bed
- Place the middle strap under the center of your mattress. Adjust the length as necessary.
- Take out the restrictions in the four corners.
- For a spread eagle position, have the restraints come off the side of the bed. For arms above your head, place them at the top and bottom of the bed.
- Place your partner in position with the restraints on their wrists and ankles and tighten the four side straps so they fit snugly to the bed.
Ways to use restraints under the bed
Now that you know how to use these sexual restrictions, it’s time to have fun! Imagination really is the limit with these restrictions! Here are some of my favorite ways to use them:
- oral sex — Choose between riding your partner’s face while he’s tied up or letting him lie back while you work your magic!
- sensation game — Sensation play is a great way to explore your partner’s entire body and look for their most sensitive spots! Think of feather tickling, pinwheels, spankers, whipsor whatever you like!
- temperature game and wax play — Ignite your partner’s senses with a little temperature play by popping a crystal wand gold metal dildo in cold or warm water or thrill them with a little hot wax.
- Orgasm denial, forced orgasms and edging – Full body bondage is perfect for exploring all kinds of orgasm power play. magic wands They are amazing for exploring forced orgasms as they are super powerful and easy to use with your partner! My all-time favorite is the absolute powerhouse: the diecast doxy.
How to use wrist to thigh restraints
This position leaves your partner’s genital area wide open for all kinds of fun!
- Have the restrained partner lie on their back.
- Fit the handcuffs comfortably around your partner’s wrists and thighs.
- Secure them together using clips or carabiners.
- They may drop their knees to one side or raise their legs in a V shape.
- Provoke them with a vibrator or blow up a sex pillowlike him Liberator Jazunder your hips for deep penetrative sex.
How to use Hogtie restraints
Hogties restrictions can be physically and psychologically demanding So they are best suited for those with a bit of bondage experience! His movement is severely limited and the position can be nice hard to holdso you may want to try this for a short period of time to get started.
How to tie your partner on his knees
This position will be easier for most people since it requires less flexibility and you are not upside down.
In a kneeling position, place the hogtie on your partner’s ankles and wrists. Tighten as necessary.
This position is great to play with your favorite. spanking toys or give a blowjob.
How to make the classic hogtie
This classic hogtie position is more intense and may not be accessible to everyone. Tea along the connectors among the restrictions, tea the easier this will be.
You can use a set of ties with wrist and ankle cuffs, a pre-made rope tie, or make your own using bondage rope.
How to use sexual restraints safely
- Set clear limits on what type of play is okay and what is prohibited while tied up, and choose a safe word that will stop the game immediately.
- always have something safety scissors on hand to free your partner from restraints in case of emergency.
- Never overtighten the straps as they can interfere with blood flow. You should be able to fit two fingers between the restraint and your body.
- Start with a short period of time and less intense forms of restriction.
- Start with less intense stimulation while restrained and build up to higher intensity as desired.
- Check in with your partner throughout the process to make sure they’re okay. You can use the traffic light system to evaluate how they are doing. Green is cool, yellow is proceeding with caution/reaching a limit, and red means stop.
Tips for talking to your partner about using sexual restrictions
It can be difficult to broach the topic of introducing bondage into your sex life, especially if you and your partner don’t talk much about sex. Below are some ways to make it a little easier and introduce the topic gently.
- Do some research beforehand and bring information you can show them, like this post, for example.
- Choose a time when you both feel relaxed and comfortable.
- You can mention how much you love your sex life and want to explore more together. Try to make it a collaborative adventure.
- You can say that you think it would be super sexy to try some beginner bondage, like a pair of handcuffs.
- Reassure them that it’s okay if they don’t know how to do it at first and that it would be fun to learn together.
- Give your partner time to think about it and respect their answers.
- Ask them if there is anything they are interested in trying.