Maybe you don’t have a vibrator yet or your favorite vibrator just ran out of batteries. Maybe you’re not a big fan of vibes or you want to rely less on your friend. Whatever the reason, it can be difficult to learn to masturbate without a vibratorespecially if you don’t have practice at it.
Luckily, sex toys aren’t the only way to enjoy a truly satisfying self-pleasure session! In fact, you might look around and see a lot of objects that you think would be a great replacement. But I tell you now that many are not safe options.
These are our favorite and tested ways to masturbate without a vibrator. I’m here to guide you on your path to satisfaction without sex toys, with details on how to find exactly what works for you.
Fingers
Using your fingers to cum is the most tried and true way there is! Many people become discouraged when they can’t get the same immediate pleasure from their hand that they expect from a vibrator. All I’m saying is don’t rule it out just yet.
There are many different ways to try masturbating with your fingers. My biggest advice would be to ignore what you might see in porn and not rub yourself directly. Try gentle circles, up and down motions, and even tapping on and around the clitoris – see what sensations it provokes and find out what feels good.
Maybe you don’t have to touch the clitoris! In fact, many vulva owners get more pleasure from playing with the clitoral hood (the skin surrounding the clitoris), especially those with particularly sensitive clitorises. Alternatively, try pressing around the base of the clitoris to stimulate the inner part of the clitoris that extends inside the body.
Whatever you try, don’t be afraid to be generous with the lube. The last thing you want during masturbation is friction, so lube up your fingers and vulva and start experimenting!
a pillow
Clitoral stimulation is really the star of the show for most vulva owners when it comes to masturbation. That’s where grinding comes into play.
Take a fairly firm pillow and lie on it. You may prefer to sit up straight or lie face down; up to you. Then, try different grinding moves, moving your hips back and forth, side to side, etc., until you find a rhythm that feels great.
If you want something even firmer, you can try a rolled towel. Or, if you’re still craving more stimulation, slide your fingers down against your clitoris and rub them. Just make sure to use a little lube to keep everything nice and slippery.
Shower
The old shower head: another classic of homemade masturbation.
Simply hold the shower head and aim the water jets at your clitoris until you find an angle that feels comfortable. Keep the water at a low temperature to avoid scale and pressure play.
Masturbating in the shower is more hygienic than many other methods, and it’s also private and discreet, which many people prefer. However, try not to let too much water into the vagina, as this can upset the natural pH balance and cause bacterial or fungal infections.
If you are not lucky enough to have a removable shower head, you can also use the bathtub faucet. Simply slide your butt to the end of the tub and find a position where your clitoris is under the running water. If this is difficult for you (and I don’t blame you), you can try using an aquatic entertainer like the Waterslyde. This product channels water from the faucet to the (much more accessible) midline of the tub so it can run toward your clitoris in a more comfortable way.
a massager
If you’re looking for how to masturbate without a vibrator, your eyes may be focused on other household objects. There are many household items that vibrate today. However, for safety reasons, I would recommend that you stay away from most of them, such as electric toothbrushes or phones.
However, there are a couple of exceptions. A vibrating silicone facial cleanser, for example, is made from body-safe materials and, once thoroughly cleaned, can be used to stimulate the clitoris or G-spot. If you want to be extra safe, cover your massager with a condom first. Also, avoid inserting anything that is not made of non-porous material!
Our expert tips for masturbating without a vibrator
Masturbating without a vibrator can be difficult for some, especially if you are not used to it. Here are some ways you can increase the enjoyment of your vibrator-free sessions and also increase your awareness of your body!
Make sure you set the mood
Using a vibrator often means we don’t have to spend as much time getting in the mood. Many people love them for the way they allow you to achieve an orgasm whenever you want!
However, that means we can be left a little helpless when we have no one to rely on. If you want to masturbate without a vibrator, it’s worth taking the extra time to really get turned on. This will help you feel less stressed and probably more likely to have an orgasm!
Turn off the lights, get comfortable in bed (or wherever you choose), and treat yourself. You can also take the help of some ethical or erotic porn to inspire your imagination.
Try different positions
Lying on your back may feel more natural when masturbating, but there are other positions worth exploring! Try sitting and leaning against a wall or other surface. This can actually be more convenient and has the added benefit of allowing you to more easily see what you are doing.
You can also try lying on your stomach or getting on all fours. The sky is the limit, really.
Try mindfulness
Masturbating without a vibrator usually takes much longer than with one, which unfortunately can be frustrating or boring for many. However, why not try to take advantage of ‘taking the scenic route’ during your sexy sessions and reveal yourself in the sensations you experience?
If you want to get in touch with yourself during masturbation, it may be helpful to use your hands or another manual method. Find out what your body wants and likes by taking things slow and being aware of what you are doing and the effect it is having. This can also help you stop focusing solely on the orgasm – there’s so much more to enjoy during masturbation!
You could even look in a mirror! Observe not only what your hands do, but also the movements your body makes and how it reacts to different types of stimulation. This can help you feel much more connected to yourself as a sexual and pleasurable being!
What NOT to use to masturbate
Now that we’ve gone over many good ways to masturbate without a vibrator, it’s time for a few caveats.
The lack of a good sex toy can cause some people to become desperate and make reckless decisions about what they put near their genitals. Here are some things that have no place in masturbation:
- Food — you should stay away from any food when looking for an alternative to a vibrator or dildo. They are not sanitary and can cause all kinds of infections. They might even break inside you: gross. Attempt These body-safe food-shaped dildos instead!
- Household objects made of unsafe materials. — I mentioned this before, but there are many vibrating objects that are not safe to bring near your genitals, including those with sharp or brittle parts, or those made of porous materials.
- Vacuum cleaner — Under no circumstances try to use a vacuum cleaner to achieve clitoral suction. Not only are they inherently impure, but you could cause serious harm to yourself.